Bisexual Yes Please

Do gay, bi and straight people really exist in this world, or are these terms simply a way to categorize individuals so that they can find each other in a world of prejudice and exclusion. The same goes for words like BDSM and fetishist(~ism). What are the negative social consequences of making up categories and boxing people in?!

Is it really relevant to anyone whether you’re straight or gay? Can’t we just ask each other whether we’re interested or not in a relationship or the equivalent?! I mean, just because one is gay doesn’t mean that he/she likes everybody of the same sex (meaning that a positive reply to an “are you gay?” question doesn’t mean anything if you’re still not interested in the one who asks the question). Same goes for bisexuals and straights. It’s fairly easy to lay down boundaries. You simply have to communicate what is ok and what is not. If it’s ok for me to be fondled by a guy, I simply don’t protest whenever he starts fondling me. Likewise, I simply tell him to quit it if I don’t like it. Period…

It is, however, practical to use terms that box us in, because systematization will give us a better overview. That overview might be completely false, but that isn’t relevant. Primarily, the overall human needs control and protection. Any kind of truth seeking is secondary.

We could also use the argument of colours, that red is red and green is green. But then we have to remember that sexual orientation can change with time, as opposed to colours. Some people like to say that gay people are born gay (same with bi/straight), but this isn’t really the case IMO. People aren’t born anything, but rather becomes the sum of our experiences. We are always the sum of our experiences.

I don’t intend to change anyone’s view, but I would like it if people would be willing to broaden their horizon some. I would rather have some Nemesis that, objectively and relevantly, attacks my views – rather than someone who agrees to everything I ever say. This is because two polarities will always see the broader picture than two on the same side that have already agreed on what is correct…

According to Alfred Kinsey’s research into human sexuality in the mid-20th century, most humans do not fall exclusively into heterosexual or homosexual classifications but somewhere between. The Kinsey scale measures sexual attraction and behavior on a seven-point scale ranging from 0 (“exclusively heterosexual”) to 6 (“exclusively homosexual”). According to Kinsey’s study, most persons fall within the range of 1 to 5 (a mixture of heterosexual and homosexual). Although Kinsey’s methodology has come under criticism, the scale is still widely used in describing the phenomenon of bisexuality.

Although observed in a variety of forms in human societies and elsewhere in the animal kingdom throughout recorded history, the term bisexuality (like the terms hetero- and homosexuality) was only coined in the 19th century.