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Posted 08 August 2005 - 10:47 AM
My wife of 17 yrs found my baby blue panties, they were in my gym shorts, in the wash. Dopey me, thought I had hidden them, but when I saw my shorts in the folded laundry, but not my panties, I knew I was busted. She hasn't said anything yet, but I found the panties under her side of the bed.
What do you think boys???....Fess up, and admit I wear them I guess......
I have ZERO time for an affair, so its not possible for them to be anothjer woman's panties. Thats what she may be thinking....
Waiting for her to pull them out, and say, "Where are these from"???
OR, should I ask, have you seen my blue panties???
Worried boys, your advice???
Thanks,
Jessica
BUSTED! Wife found a pair
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Posted 08 August 2005 - 12:21 PM
Its got to be a lot worse her thinking they belong to another woman so you really have no choice but to fess up to wearing them. A bit difficult I admit if the subject has never arisen, you have never played around with hers when she was there etc etc but somehow you have to introduce the topic - just make as light as possible and even a bit jokey if the situation allows - and best of luck!
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Posted 08 August 2005 - 01:37 PM
Ditto Kimberly's advice. Be honest and try not to make any bigger deal of it than you can. Of course a lot depends as well on her reaction. Question: When you say you found them under her side of the bed, what does that mean? Or more to the point, does it tell you anything about her reaction? Is she simply trying to ignore it, waiting for the moment to question you, or waiting to see whether you bring it up before she feels compelled to? Probably best way to find the answers is by asking her directly, when you (hopefully) pre-empt things by being the one to come clean first?
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Posted 08 August 2005 - 02:01 PM
Jessica_ryan, on Aug 8 2005, 06:42 AM, said:
My wife of 17 yrs found my baby blue panties ....
I believe that you need to discuss it with her. You should not make a big deal out of it and maybe just ask if she has seen them since you seem to have misplaced them. If she response and ask why you had them, just tell her that you do enjoy wearing them from time to time when you work out. I have a few pairs of mens Jockey Thongs that gets washed with our everyday clothing each week.... so my wife finding a pair of women's panties would not seem to be a hard thing to explain.
Life is but a short trip .... we all must make the best of it as we travel on our journey, through our very "brief" Life here !
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Posted 08 August 2005 - 03:10 PM
I think you should let her know that they are yours. first you mus let her know that it is perfectly normal for men to wear womens panties. My g/f
pointed out to me that there are articles in magazines such as cosmopolitan
that tell of ways to spice up the sex life,and one of them is for the man to wear lingere. a role reversal thing. I was not the one who told my g/f that I wore panties, she found out other ways. her reaction was quite astonishing. We have been discussing this a lot lately and she has revealed to me that she has often fantasized about me wearing lacy undergarments,but was afraid to ask me to do so.She has known for 3 of our 4 years together that I wear such apparel,and did not let me know of her knowledge until just a few days ago. she said that she didnt want to cause me any undue embarrassment,and was afraid that her knowledge of my little "secret" would cause us to break up. I was also afraid that if she
knew, that she would consider me to be gay and tell me to "hit the bricks"
I considder myself to be VERY lucky to have such a g/f that is open minded enough to accept the fact that I wear panties. Now, she has informed me that she is on the hunt for lingere items that she would like to see me in when I get the chance to stop by her house for a visit.
anyway...back to my point. just tell her that they are yours and it is perfectly normal for a man to do such things as wear panties. If she loves you as she says she does,then she will accept this.
Who knows? maybe she will turn out to be as wonderful as my g/f about this.
pointed out to me that there are articles in magazines such as cosmopolitan
that tell of ways to spice up the sex life,and one of them is for the man to wear lingere. a role reversal thing. I was not the one who told my g/f that I wore panties, she found out other ways. her reaction was quite astonishing. We have been discussing this a lot lately and she has revealed to me that she has often fantasized about me wearing lacy undergarments,but was afraid to ask me to do so.She has known for 3 of our 4 years together that I wear such apparel,and did not let me know of her knowledge until just a few days ago. she said that she didnt want to cause me any undue embarrassment,and was afraid that her knowledge of my little "secret" would cause us to break up. I was also afraid that if she
knew, that she would consider me to be gay and tell me to "hit the bricks"
I considder myself to be VERY lucky to have such a g/f that is open minded enough to accept the fact that I wear panties. Now, she has informed me that she is on the hunt for lingere items that she would like to see me in when I get the chance to stop by her house for a visit.
anyway...back to my point. just tell her that they are yours and it is perfectly normal for a man to do such things as wear panties. If she loves you as she says she does,then she will accept this.
Who knows? maybe she will turn out to be as wonderful as my g/f about this.
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Posted 09 August 2005 - 03:59 AM
GirlFriend just tell her, you are killing her, you know she thinks what is wrong with why is he doing someone else, am i not good enough
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Posted 09 August 2005 - 04:38 AM
I would definitely bring the issue out in the open and tell her about it. The fact that she has the panties under her side of the bed tells me that she is just waiting for you to bring the subject out in the open and, more than likely, she's OK with it. Alot of women would immediately confront their spouse in fear that they were not being honest and truthful about their relationship. Any prolonged secrecy about the issue is just going to make things more difficult for the both of you. If you go to her about the situation, she will know that you are 100% commited to her and she will know that you aren't hiding anything.
As a suggestion, after you tell her and talk about it, turn her on to this site if shows a genuine curiosity. Show her that there is nothing wrong with you wearing girly things. She'll be amazed that there are so many of us that share the interest. Good luck.
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As a suggestion, after you tell her and talk about it, turn her on to this site if shows a genuine curiosity. Show her that there is nothing wrong with you wearing girly things. She'll be amazed that there are so many of us that share the interest. Good luck.
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Posted 09 August 2005 - 06:01 AM
I agree with everything that has been said above ... if everything else in your marriage is normal (I did not say perfect because I would never believe anyone who said their marriage was perfect .. LOL) then this should be nothing more than a bump in the road .. tell her honestly how you feel, why you prefer to wear feminine panties instead of male briefs or boxers, how they make you feel when wearing them, and how much you hate that you were too embarrassed or shy to tell her before now ... THEN tell her how precious, pretty, beautiful, and feminine she is and how wonderful it makes you feel to be in her life ... and make sure you make her understand nothing about your desire to wear panties is about her lack of femininity or you wanting to become a female yourself .. also make her understand that MOST (and I believe the figure is 98%... please someone correct me if I am wrong here) of all males that from time to time wear feminine items are STRAIGHT!!! Hetro-sexual MALES with zero Bi or Gay tendencies ...
Also DO NOT forget to shower her with affection, praise, kindness, and admiration for just being who she is and Your Amazing Wife!!!
Just my advice but I hope it helps a little anyway.
A Sister-n-Panties from Kansas,
Michelle Jo
Also DO NOT forget to shower her with affection, praise, kindness, and admiration for just being who she is and Your Amazing Wife!!!
Just my advice but I hope it helps a little anyway.
A Sister-n-Panties from Kansas,
Michelle Jo
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Posted 10 August 2005 - 01:39 AM
LingerieLuvr, on Aug 9 2005, 01:33 AM, said:
I would definitely bring the issue out in the open and tell her about it. The fact that she has the panties under her side of the bed tells me that she is just waiting for you to bring the subject out in the open and, more than likely, she's OK with it.
It may be pure fantasy on my part, but as I read this I flashed on a What if?
Namely, What if she put them under the mattress so she could pull them out in the middle of your next lovemaking session and invite you to model them for her? Of course, I know nothing of her personality, your relationship, or her sense of humour to tell me whether this scenario is the least bit likely. And it would be all too easy to let my imagination run away with me, even in my own relationships and hope that something befitting my own fantasies was in the offing. One more good reason to choose the direct route, unless she's already beaten you to it. Direct usually works a lot better than expecting your love to be a mind reader.
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Posted 10 August 2005 - 11:50 AM
Anna you are an Naughty Girl 
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Posted 12 August 2005 - 04:39 AM
I'm in agreement with all of the above. If the matter hasn't been resolved by now don't leave it to fester in either her mind or yours. Simply be upfront about your underwear preference.
I have been lucky in that I've always told all of my girlfriends in the past that I wear knickers instead of 'underpants' and it hasn't put any of them off entering into a relationship, some of them have giggled but that has been the extent of their reaction. I find that most women are much more open minded than their male counterparts and that honesty from the outset is by far the best policy, it's secrecy that causes objections and a possible sense of betrayal.
By being open about your preference before intimacy it gives your potential partner the option of continuing with the relationship, or if they don't like it, ending it. I know in your case that my approach is a bit late but it isn't too late to be honest now. It seems to me that for a woman to object to a guy who wears knickers smacks a little of hypocrisy - a long time ago Calvin Klien started a fashion for women by designing knickers that were based on mens underwear, and I see that there are knickers called 'boy-shorts' out there too!
Good luck, I'm sure that things will work out fine.
Nic
I have been lucky in that I've always told all of my girlfriends in the past that I wear knickers instead of 'underpants' and it hasn't put any of them off entering into a relationship, some of them have giggled but that has been the extent of their reaction. I find that most women are much more open minded than their male counterparts and that honesty from the outset is by far the best policy, it's secrecy that causes objections and a possible sense of betrayal.
By being open about your preference before intimacy it gives your potential partner the option of continuing with the relationship, or if they don't like it, ending it. I know in your case that my approach is a bit late but it isn't too late to be honest now. It seems to me that for a woman to object to a guy who wears knickers smacks a little of hypocrisy - a long time ago Calvin Klien started a fashion for women by designing knickers that were based on mens underwear, and I see that there are knickers called 'boy-shorts' out there too!
Good luck, I'm sure that things will work out fine.
Nic
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Posted 12 August 2005 - 06:55 AM
I agree with Nic. Be up front. I was with girlfriends and my ex-wife. (Our divorce wasn't over my wearing knickers but other non sexual factors). Most female partners didn't mind, as Nic says women are usually a lot more tolerant than men about such matters and my wife, and one G/F were happy to share knickers with me as we took the same size and liked the same styles. One potential G/F didn't like my knicker wearing so we parted as both of us would have been miserable and my wearing panties is not a matter that is open to negotiation , love me love my knicks!
As others have said here, level with your wife, tell her that one in seven men wear women's underwear and assure her that there is no other women in the picture. Good luck to you both!
As others have said here, level with your wife, tell her that one in seven men wear women's underwear and assure her that there is no other women in the picture. Good luck to you both!
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Posted 12 August 2005 - 02:27 PM
I agree with everyone else, fess up. Several years back my wife opened a credit card statement (we have more than one account with the same issuer) and found purchases from VS! I had to model to prove that the thongs were mine and that I was not fooling around. Obviously she knows now and, I don't have to hide it. She is not real wild about it but I can wear what I want.
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Posted 13 August 2005 - 08:29 AM
Time to step up to the plate chump 
Just ask her where the rest of your gym stuff is. She most likely thinks the worst already so the longer you wait the more time with the OTHER woman hanging in her mind 
GOOD LUCK
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Posted 20 August 2005 - 02:12 PM
Back to the topic...
Yeah, I was recently BUSTED. My wife saw me in a pair of satin panties she did not recognize. I told her that I had purchased them about four or five months back. She was surprised that she hadn't seen them. She only see's my cotton "work" panties in the wash (I wash all my other pretty panties myself). Well next she opened my panty drawer and began to inspect my entire collection. She was confused as to the way they were sorted, cotton work panties, silky bikini's, thongs etc... After that, she simply closed the drawer and continued on with our conversation.
Yeah, I was recently BUSTED. My wife saw me in a pair of satin panties she did not recognize. I told her that I had purchased them about four or five months back. She was surprised that she hadn't seen them. She only see's my cotton "work" panties in the wash (I wash all my other pretty panties myself). Well next she opened my panty drawer and began to inspect my entire collection. She was confused as to the way they were sorted, cotton work panties, silky bikini's, thongs etc... After that, she simply closed the drawer and continued on with our conversation.
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Posted 17 April 2006 - 06:50 PM
You have to tell her. Besides it's a lot more fun when she knows and accepts it.
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Posted 18 April 2006 - 06:30 AM
I take it that you got all the advice you will need. Just like every one else...tell her that they are yours and you would love it if she supported you or even just understood.
Well I hope all goes well.
take care
Well I hope all goes well.
take care
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There's nothing like good food, good wine and a bad girl.
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Posted 05 September 2006 - 01:01 PM
Jessica,
It's been a year since you posted this so I'm sure you told her they were yours. letting her think they were someone else's would not have been good for any marriage. I think I speak for everyone PLEASE Let us know how it turned out
Lacy
It's been a year since you posted this so I'm sure you told her they were yours. letting her think they were someone else's would not have been good for any marriage. I think I speak for everyone PLEASE Let us know how it turned out
Lacy
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Posted 08 September 2006 - 12:17 PM
I love to hear stories about how husbands tell their wives for the first time about their panty wearing. I told mine when we first starting dating, over 12 years ago now. Everything after that was downhill as they say.
"Panties are not the best thing in life, but next to it!"
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Posted 09 September 2006 - 03:36 PM
PS was that because you was honest with her, or would it been downhill anyway knowing what you know now?
