[davelast]

I have been living in Asia for over 16 years now and in that time I have only met up with two other panty-wearers who were not full or part-time crossdessers.

I have a panty-wearing buddy who lives about an hour and a half away from me. We meet up every six weeks or so for a panty jerk-off session together. He's 100% gay and has a boyfriend of 15 years, the boyfriend does not know about me.

The previous one I met in Hong Kong, the relationship was cut short by his company closing its office in Hong Kong and he had to return to Europe.

I'm just wondering of those that wish or do partake in this sort of fun, how difficult do you find it to meet others with the same interest? I have placed ads on local gay and crossdressing BBSs, and responded to all other ads that either mention underwear or panties.

At first there is a flurry of e-mails back and forth, they slowly get further and further apart, and in the end silence. They all lead nowhere.

Is it me? Or do others find the same?

Dave.

[Shellyalison]

Personally, while I enjoy this site and like to add my unique perspective, I live a little different than most that are here, so for me to find someone here would be tough for me, I did join gaycanada for the purpose of meeting people irl, I have met a few people that I even happened to go to school with, while we were not in the same clique, we were at the same school at the same time, so far in my experience, there seems to be no one that visits here that lives near me, but none the less, everyone here is friendly, and seems to be non judgemental, I'm just going from memory here, but seems like most of the participants here are from the U.S., and the U.K., so if you are in those areas, theres a good chance you could meet someone

shelly

[carlainpanty]

Heyyyyyyyyyy Breanna I was sad to here about your problem, I just dont get it, Who would not luv Breanna in her Sexy little Panties.

[Kimberley]

breanna, on Jan 11 2006, 04:49 AM, said:

I find most GG don't fancy a man who crossdresses. I don't know, maybe it's because they think I'm invading on their territory.

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Breanna you might look at the thread under what women like in this section of the forum since I posted a query as to what extent women would feel threatened by cross dressing men - a couple of thoughtful responses from Strops Wife and Michelle Jo, hopefully there will be more

[Michelle_Jo]

Maybe it is just the Mid-Western part of the US but I have been searching for over 10 years now. Although I have found a lot of really nice, open minded people online and a few sister like myself locally (within 100 miles) so far I have not found anyone locally that wants or seams interested in the kind of special friendship I have to offer. I have hooked up with a total of 5 gurls like myself in 10 years and although 3 of them I still consider my friends and we exchange emails and chat from time to time ... we just didn't click ... sexually ... 2 of them are looking for a MAN to have in their lives and the other one had other non-sexual baggage that made a real relationship almost impossible.

So I guess what I am trying to say is ... For a gurl like me ... finding a sister locally interested in being a Special Friend-with-Benefits is harder than it was find a girl to date or marry before I came out of the closet.

I have lots of really special friends but sadly all of them seam to be hundreds of miles away and I haven't been able to sell enough on eBay yet to buy a Lear Jet ... but I refuse to give up ... saving my pennies, and collecting aluminum cans, and doing all the odd jobs I can find .. someday I will make my first million.

Then watch out world because Michelle Jo is coming (or is that cumming)!!!

Lonely in Panties,
Michelle Jo

[zoe9214]

As some of you who've read my previous posts know, I've had the luck to be invited into a very select group of people who associate for the purpose of guilt-free, safe sexual adventures. Prior to my meeting Elke (another member of the group) I regularly participated in scenes where I was "dressed". My crossdressing and bisexuality were part of my "profile" that was used when a member wanted to organize a scene.

IMHO the important part of this is that I think I was the only American member of the group, and while I may have entertained a fellow member at my homes in the States and Mexico, the action was in Europe. I think that for the most part Americans are sexually repressed and closeted. And while the reasons for that repression can be argued right back to the Pilgrims, there can be no argument people are more open about all aspects of sexuality in Europe. You only have to look at television and print advertising. You regularly see things that would never appear in the US media. Being more open means being more available to ideas, suggestions and explorations (sexplorations?).

I've had the same experience as others in terms of the flurry of emails, exchange of pictures, on-line wanks and even webcam exchanges. But when it came down to let's meet here or let's meet there, it was always a no-go situation. Contrast that to the number of European business establishments like bars, pubs, restaurants, etc. that cater to the transvestite, transgender, crossdresser, B&D enthusiasts, et al. You get off the plane in Frankfurt and the sex shop is down the hall from the gate. There's a similar establishment right on Oxford Street in London. And then there's Trans-Mission, a club where you can meet a thousand or so folks who may or may not be girls or gurls in a safe, sane, open setting. You can park on the street and not worry about being mugged or victimized. And it's not the only place in London (or Manchester) where you'll be openly welcome. Of course you use common sense and caution, but you have little to worry about. Contrast that to the seedy furtiveness of most of the places in mid-America where the risk of discovery can bring shame and even danger.

As for the current state of on-line contacts: It's became too murky for me way before Elke. The anonymity of the net has brought too many sickos into the game. I'm in a commited relationship with Elke, but if I were "available" I don't know if I could work up the resolve to meet someone encountered on-line. Since it never worked for me before, I'd worry about why it was working now. Just because I'm paranoid it doesn't mean they're not out to get me .

This post has been edited by zoe9214: 25 March 2006 - 12:27 PM

[Kimberley]

An interesting post Zoe, you may be right about the US, as a UK based panty wearer I don't know - but of course most Europeans would agree with your analysis, repression about sex but accepting of violence - most think the states have it the wrong way round. But that might be unfair and a stereotype.

Having done all the online things over the last couple of years I recently plucked up courage and had a meeting and it went fine although it started with an online encounter. I asked the girl I met (more experienced that me) how you judged you had the right person and she said you 'develop a sixth sense' and I guess its a matter of chatting first, exchanging pics, getting a feel for the person before you actually get to feel the person! But I think you are right about there being a whole infrastructure here in the UK at least for tvs, cds and every kind of sexual identity. I guess if you use your common sense (which of course we are apt not to do in the heat of the moment!) then the online and meeting places are relatively safe.

Best of luck to you

Kim xxxx