[undies]

I just told my wife that I have worn her panties. She is cool with it and we have had sex while I am wearing her panties and she has given some of hers to me as my own. I ordered some new panties from Jockey by calling the catalog and ordered size 6 for her and the same order of each color size 7 for me. The girl just paused and went on. The other day I got out of the shower and she was dressing and I saw she had laid out the blue with white polka dot bikinis on my side of the bed. She was standing at the sink and she was wearing her blue with white polka dots bikinis. We matched that day. This is going great.

However, I want to get a garter belt and stockings, but I don't know if she will think I am going overboard. I don't want to wreck a good thing by pushing too far. I have worn them on travels alone, big turn on, so I want to at home.

Anyone been down this path, and how did it go???

thanx, undies

[val83]

I think you have to be honest to her. If you're afraid to directly ask her what her comfort level is, then try to subtly or indirectly bring it up and see if she's comfortable. If she isn't, back off. If she is, great! But I'll say go slow and don't rush things, otherwise she might wonder how far you want to go

[pantyloverman]

This is a tough question..I'm in a similar situation. When I told my wife 8 months ago about my love for panties and wearing them....she was great...excepted it and now enjoys it....she has bought me my own and love it when we play together in panties......give it time....the more mine got into it, the more she enjoyed it....she actually shocked me when she suggested I wear her silky nightgown one night...then she surprised me and bought me one.....then last week i bought some stockings....and put them on and waited for her to come to bed.....she didn't freak when she felt them.....I don't know if she was totally ok with it....but she didn't kick me out of bed....I guess if she loves you she will accept you....after 17 years of marriage..things are starting to really be interesting and freeing.....I even told her I would be interested in trying some new experiences....with a good friend of mine who is gay.....she always liked him and she admitted she would love to watch!! I can't wait to make this happen.......so my advise is to just take your time and feel her out...you will be able to tell how is is feeling about it all....if she accepted your panties and even unbraced it a little it sounds like...I think you will be ok......if you feel comfortable...it is always nice to just sit down and ask her how what she thinks....tell her why you like to dress...i found that it helps to share how you feel and what you like about it!

Good Luck!

[Pantied Suzi]

Yes, go slowly. Feel her out by slowly adding some other things to your wadrobe and see how she responds. If she doesn't like it, you will be able to tell. And if she doesn't mind it then you can add something else in the future.

[satinguy469]

Comment on hers and see where it leads. Honesty is always best, just take it slow.

[mic091221]

go slowly and just test the waters,,,,, but don't be suprised if it doesn't work out at first..... just take what you can get, and then when she is in a "playful" mood, ease her into it..

I cannot get my wife past the panties part.. i wish i could,, but its been 15 years and still a no-go... so i take what i can get, and just dress up when nobody is around. Oh well.

[val83]

mic091221, on 05 October 2011 - 06:46 AM, said:

go slowly and just test the waters,,,,, but don't be suprised if it doesn't work out at first..... just take what you can get, and then when she is in a "playful" mood, ease her into it..

I cannot get my wife past the panties part.. i wish i could,, but its been 15 years and still a no-go... so i take what i can get, and just dress up when nobody is around. Oh well.

My wife too is strictly panties only, nothing more

[knickerlvr]

Here's my $0.02 opinion: Forget the "going slow" approach!!

You said that you are married -- that implies that someplace and sometime in the past, you made some vows to her that implied that her happiness is more important than yours. This is a good thing and I, and hopefully others, will applaud you for this.

So I say, tell her you want to wear stockings, garters, dresses, skirts or whatever.... BUT your commitment to her is greater than your desire to "dress." I think the best approach is to be direct rather than "manipulate" her into slowly accepting your wants/desires...

If she is "cool" with you wearing panties, she is a keeper. I would suggest being honest with her and NOT trying to "slowly convince" her that more "extreme" cross-dressing is something that you would like to do.

But hey, this is the internet where opinions are free, and generally worth the price that you paid for them! Just so you know, I wear panties, the wife accepts and even moderately encourages it... I've told her my "desires," we've bought my first dress... BUT I haven't worn that dress for her yet. My feeling is that she isn't "ready" yet and I love her more than I do crossdressing.

Best of luck to you and I hope things work out for you!! -- KL

[pantiesgowest]

I had the same experience with my wonderful wife.

She has bought me panties and nicely folds my washed ones and adds them to my clean washing pile to put away; in short she's fine with panties.

I asked her if it would be okay if I wore a nice nightie to bed. She thought a little and said in all honesty that was going a bit too far. I love her and accepted that and just panties it is. My advice is ask up front.

[ilovepurplepanties]

My wife is also panties only, and that is kind of reluctantly. She saw pictures of me in bra, panties and pantyhose and said it was kind of weird. She said she understands the panty wearing, but not the bras and pantyhose. Maybe someday she will be okay with the bra and pantyhose, but for now I take what I can get.

[sub19111]

You're already luckier than I am. My wife wants absolutely nothing to do with me in panties.

[bijohnny]

I'm in the go slow camp.

My wife was ok with the panties thing. It started as a "dare" for me to wear hers. When she found out I liked it, she just asked me to stop wearing hers. (Didn't like them stretched.)

It started out as acceptance - she didn't seem to understand it but didn't complain. She was moderately worried I was gay. I had to reassure her I wasn't. That episode of Friends when Joey wears red lacy panties helped.

We've gone panty shopping together recently, which was fun. We have a pair of matching panties and she giggled when I laid out hers for the next day. A few years ago she was not happy when I bought a bra and now she helps me put it on and showed me how to put on pantyhose.

It's all about comfort. You can't force someone to enjoy it as much as you do. You want to be pretty, sexy, girly, but she may want the manly man she fell in love with. Balance is about meeting her expectations as much as wanting her to meet yours.