[Undercover]

I have read many stories on this site and thought I would share my own experience with telling my wife about my desire to wear panties – and other frilly things.

About 5 years ago, a niece of mine came to visit over the summer. After her departure, while doing laundry, I found a pair of her black microfiber panties tucked behind the washer. I threw them in the washer along with other clothes. Upon drying, I noticed they were roughly my size so I put them in my drawer knowing the wife would not miss them. I have never liked tighty whities, had occasionally borrowed my wifes panties/bra, and had several pair of black male bikini underwear. Since these panties were rather unisex in appearance and black, I decided to wear them. Nothing was said. A few times, the wife fondled me while wearing these panties, again apparently not noticing that they were in fact panties. What a rush. I would relish the days I was able to wear these single pair of panties. I would relish the days even more in which I was able to have sex with my wife while wearing these panties. This began my coming out to my wife. I could not believe my wife did not realize I was wearing panties, or maybe she did. However, nothing was ever said.

Over time, I purchased several pair of black panties which were again rather unisex in appearance, but had the obvious cotton lined gusset. Also, at this point, I began doing the laundry almost universally (something I have kept up to this day). Unlike the first pair which were smooth microfiber, I began to wear silky nylon panties. Again, nothing was said. By this time, I had enough panties to wear them 24/7, relishing every day, but I wondered if the wife really knew I was wearing panties.

A few years later during a rather sexual dry spell in our relationship, I became frustrated with the relationship and decided buy more frilly black panties which could not be mistaken for male underwear. Some had bows in the front. Some had lace. I wore a pair of black panties fully laced in the back (which are in my gallery). There would be no mistaking these panties for anything but panties. In bed that night, I knew she saw them, yet again, nothing was said. I finally asked her what she thought about my panties. That night we had a very interesting discussion about my panty wearing. She asked if I also wanted to wear bras. Unfortunately, I told her no, just panties. Our sex life sparked up a bit - not as much as I would have liked, but a bit. She seemed to be okay with me wearing panties.

After a few months, I begin to explore with beige color panties. Again, there was no major response from the wife. During a few discussions here and there, I learned that she did not understand my desire to wear panties, was concerned about the kids finding out or me getting in an accident while outside the home, but really did not care nor understand my burning desire to wear panties. By this time, I had several pair of frilly and lacy panties but in basic colors mostly beige and black. After about a year, I started to buy many more pair of panties focusing now on several colors to include my most desired pink panties. One night, during sex as she was fondling me while I was wearing my pink panties, we discussed my desires about colorful panties and possibility of wearing female attire like nylons and camisoles. Basically, the result was whatever floats your boat. So, I bought some camisoles and begin wearing them. I started to become more open and instead of wearing panties and a T-shirt to bed, I would wear panties and a matching camisole. Also, by this time, I noticed that my wife occasionally wore a pair of my panties.

Things were going great, from my perspective. Then, the bad night came. My wife came in and stated she wanted me to explore my sexuality and would like a divorce. I was flabbergasted. In talking with her, I understood that she still truly loved me, but wanted me to be happy and explore my sexuality with other men. I told her I was not gay and truly wanted her and only her. I informed her that accepting my cross dressing was more than any man could want and I loved her, and only her, for that acceptance. Understand, while bi-curious, I would never be unfaithful in my relationship with my wife.

Since this time, our sex life has become very satisfying, for both of us. She is expressing herself more as am I. The other day, I was wearing a nice lacy pink cami and panties. She stated they were very nice and wanted to wear them. She has also since taken several pair of my panties as hers. She is wearing more lacy things which is nice. During this time, I continue to do laundry. It is something she hates, and I really don’t mind doing. I also cook most of the time as I enjoy cooking. We both work, so sharing the housework seems natural, especially if both partners wear sexy things. She has purchased some items and where she used to not show me these things, she now tries them on in front of me and also asks me to try them on. Some do things for me; some do not, but the fact that we are both completely open and she completely supports my wearing of sexy, frilly things makes me love her even more. I have recently told her that I want to dress up completely and go outside one night. She said we will see. All I can say is the future looks bright.

I wanted to tell this story because it has been almost five years in the making. At least for me, it has become a natural part of our relationship. I believe it has also become a natural part of our relationship for my wife. There were trials and tribulations, but I supported her and her desires to do things more independently. I, in turn supported her by doing housework she does not like. She in turn has supported me. We are both much more honest in our relationship and much more open to each other. The other night, she asked me to put some Icy Hot on her back as it was hurting. I am rubbing her back and looking at her wearing a pair of my lacy panties. I am truly a lucky man married to a wonderful wife.

[vicky]

I am a very lucky man too,in that my wife knows and loves and shares the pleasure of me wearing panties, I think at one time or another me , my wife and step daughter have all swopped panties , knowingly or unknowingly .

[carlainpanty]

good job it take time my wife and i have evolved in almost the same manner, now she does not even give it a second thought she did not even notice last night i had on a new Pink nightie i wont say anything she will notice when there are 2 pink nighties in the whas

[maiden]

The first story here is awesome!! I wish I could find a woman like that. I'm a new/old member here. Everytime I break up with a girl, the whole panty thing comes back stronger. My biggest desire is satin, everything related to it.

[Michele102]

I have a new girlfriend and I informed her right from the start that I crossdress. I was nervous, but decided to be honest with her and she is very accepting of my dressing options. She said we will have to go shopping and buy matching panties, we are different sizes. Life is great!!!

[rebeka]

I to am lucky as my wife is fully accepting and buys most of my things for me

This post has been edited by rebeka: 07 February 2010 - 11:23 PM

[pantiedhammer]

I am also one of the lucky ones - my wife will surprise me with a nightie or some new panties on occasion and is a full and willing participant in my desires

[Pantied Suzi]

I too am one of the lucky ones with a supportive wife. I have said before that the key is to be honest and upfront with her about it. The longer the relationship goes, the harder it will be when she accidently finds out after years of keeping it a secret. I also think that the couples that have this secret of their husbands wearing panties, the ones who wives approve of it that is, actually have a great relationship and are happy together. Just my opinion.

[karijane10]

I, too, have a supportive wife, but I don't think she's as "in to it" as with some of you. The panties she likes. She really just tolerates the rest of my crossdressing.

I found it interesting that Undercover started doing the laundry. I did too. I wonder if a lot of panty gurls do the laundry when they're exploring their panty wearing with their wives. (However, I draw the line at cooking. I would starve to death if I had to cook for myself. Besides, my wife is a great cook. Why would I want to learn to cook and mess that up.)

[sloggilover]

I am a lucky guy, my ex-girl friend and present wife all supported me wearing panties. My ex was the one who encouraged me wearing her panties and she bought me lot of different patterns and cuts, she even through away all my brief everytime we met. It is sweet and lovely sharing panties with your wife all the times.

[WhiteSatin099]

That is a great story. I am struggling as to whether or not to come out of the pantie closet, and your story is great food for thought.

[Luvyrpntys]

Thanks for sharing your story. It is a huge relief when you can finally share your feminine side with your spouse or girlfriend. While I've never been married (and at 26 I hope not to be for a few more years), I've told almost all of my serious girlfriends about my panty and lingerie need. They are/were accepting of my decision and enjoyed it and supported me.
It only blew up in my face once. I was in high school, 16, dating a girl a year younger than me in the class below me. I told her and she supported me and seemed to enjoy it with me... until I broke up with her the next year. That's when the proverbial shit hit the fan. After I graduated, I went to the same school her sister attended and amazingly enough, her sister and I shared the same friends in college. My break up with her sister was pretty bad so she blabbed about it to everyone, including her sister and this sister who went to the same college as me blabbed about it to my college friends.
It was embarrassing at first, but they didn't seem to mind which was fine.
That experience hasn't stopped me from telling girlfriends about my love of panties and lingerie and other girly things.

I've been dating my current girlfriend for over a year now and I told her right off the bat. And she has been extraordinarily loving and supporting of me. We go shopping together, she buys me panties all the time, we swap panties and wear each other's and our sex life is much more spicy because of it.

Overall, and I've said this numerous times on this board, if someone is going into a new relationship/marriage, the best policy is to be open and honest about it. Talk to them about how you feel, how these articles of clothing make you feel and tell them that it's part of you. If they truly love you and want to be with you, they will be more than understanding... that's always been my experience with this anyways.

*kisses*
Zoey

[Pantyholic]

Luvyrpntys, on 10 March 2010 - 09:30 PM, said:

Overall, and I've said this numerous times on this board, if someone is going into a new relationship/marriage, the best policy is to be open and honest about it.

And don't get fed up of saying it dear because that's exactly my sentiments. I know some of you gurls think marriage is for better or for worse, but get the worst out the way before you tie the knot, because afterwards more than likely......... your gonna lose half your wealth

[PantyhoseNPumps]

What a beautiful story.. it takes me back to when my marriage was quite the same.. I was sooo much in love with her for her acceptance, among lots of other reasons, but alas... it ultimatelly came to an end, sadly. But, I really can relate to your happiness, I've been right there before.. and I envy you for where you are with your wife. I agree with PH too.. best to be upfront about your real desires. If I ever fall in love again, that's what I'll do.. Christine ♥